You cannot repair a relationship with a woman who believes the problem is always your reaction, never her behavior. Period.
Some people have a special talent. They can start the fire, then blame you for smelling smoke.
She disrespects you. You react. Now, somehow, your reaction becomes the entire conversation. Interesting.
The original issue disappears. Her behavior disappears. Accountability disappears. Now you're the villain. Magic trick.
A lot of men get trapped here, apologizing for their reaction while the behavior that caused it keeps happening. Again. And again. And again.
You can't solve a problem with someone who refuses to admit they participate in creating it. Impossible mission.
The most dangerous words in any relationship are: "Everything is your fault." Because growth dies the moment accountability dies.
Healthy people ask, "What did we do wrong?" Toxic people ask, "How can I make this all your fault?" Huge difference.
Relationships survive mistakes. They don't survive one-sided accountability.
The moment somebody believes their behavior is always justified and your reaction is always the problem, the relationship is already bleeding out. Because you can't fix anything with a person who thinks they're never part of the problem. Period.
This is so deep...
source @read.this.slowly8
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